Monday, October 25, 2010

At my house

At my house I am taking control .
I am saying no to coming to work just because
someone else feels like a day off .
I need time off too .
I am saying no to inappropiate text messages
to my 12 year old nearly 13 year old daughter
who thinks she is 18 years old .
I have taken matters to the police .
I am saying no to xbox on school nights to the boy .
Study or help at home .
I am saying no to everyone this week .
Ask me something , the answer is no !

I am a good mother , wife , employee , friend ,
community member .
I think I'll even be better when I can sometimes say no
and say yes to things that can be good for me .

See others who aren't spitting their dummies at Lou Lous .

35 comments:

marina said...

You need to say 'no' sometimes. I will make sure I don't ask you a question lol.
cheers

Kelly said...

Yes to saying no! I am still learning when to say yes and when I must say no, but so far more nos in my life have led to more peace.

I love your crocheted blocks! So pretty!

Little Ted Canvas said...

Good for you! We really do need to be able to say no sometimes, especially when we know it is right for us!

Sweet Cinnamon Stitches said...

I agree....yes to saying no. Lovely crochet squares Clare....are you making a rug?
Jane.

fairchildstreet said...

No is needed especially when it comes to electronic games. I am getting my son to help around the house a bit more to use up some of his spare time. Charmaine

Barb said...

For me...NO is one of the hardest words I can say...it is hard, always has been hard and if I would just learn to ssay NO, my life would be much easier....

Jo in TAS said...

NO is such a powerful word and it takes some of us a long time to use it but when you do you take control of your life! Well Done!!

Tracee said...

You Rock! Too many of us say yes far to often, and most of the time it is always to please others or to make things easier at the time. We need to say no more often than we do, it is better for our health, family and commitments in the long run.

Robyn said...

I say no but it doesn't do much good, DH still brings the 2 grandkids here, unnannounced, when I've said I need some time to catch up on my sewing :(! Then I have to run around like a mad woman packing everything away as gs, at 3, is apt to put his grubby little fingers on something to ask me what it is! I love him but he's given waayyy to much freedom at his house and I can't be cranky with him because his parents have different ideas to me.

NessaKnits said...

Good for you. You need to say NO to those things.

Mistea said...

Glad No has made it back into your vocabulary - seems we always tell little kids No but not the big kids!

Hope you get to use your extra time just the way you'd like.

Allie said...

YOU GO GIRL!!!!! Especially on the texting....YIKES!

Sue said...

Good for you..........

Catherine said...

Good on you! You have to say no sometimes. Take care and I hope everything settles down soon.xo

Anna - tillytom.com.au said...

Here's to you enjoying some 'you' time and saying no - you just have to sometimes : )

Wendy said...

Attagirl!

Melody said...

I agree, I have trouble saying no a lot of the time BUT you get to a point where you have just plain had enough. So yes, NO NO NO!
(Sorry to hear you had to take inappropriate texts to the police. I did this for a young woman I know regarding inappropriate, in fact really hateful emails, she was receiving, and the police were fantastic. They spoke to the other 19 year old involved and she stopped sending them.. Hopefully they will be able to help you too.)

The Handmaden said...

Gulp....
Sounds like you've had a bit on your plate, hope your "no" stance helps!

Michelle said...

Glad you can so NO and mean it, that's the hard part!

our shabby cottage said...

Sometimes it is liberating to say 'no'. I said 'no' to a friend who wanted me to fill in for tennis. I said 'no' to master 8 who wanted to take his basket ball to school for show and tell, as if they don't have enough balls at school. This list goes on. Be strong i say.

Buttons by Lou Lou said...

I am in a little bit of a 'no' phase at the moment too. I have to or I will go completely crazy. Too many things to do and not enough time! Seems like some fair enough 'no's' going on at your house at the moment. Good on you! Lou.

Mrs Yappy Dog said...

It is very hard to stand back and say 'no' but very liberating when you do ... and people respect you more for it, family and friends will appreciate you more beceause you are now putting a value on your time, patience and commitment - good for you - it has taken me until my fifties to learn to say no without feeling bad about it and it goes hand in hand with the art of delegation!

Clare said...

Good for you! The amount of times u say yes need to be balanced out by the amount of times u say no. Well done!

http://www.byebyebirdie-clare.blogspot.com/

Kate said...

Phew! Sounds like there's quite a lot of full on stuff going on at your place at the moment. I hope your 'no's' help you to get through this time. Good luck and I am so pleased to see your gorgeous squares that will cheer you up if anything can.

Quilting in My Pyjamas said...

Good for you. Can you email me and give me a pep talk on the virtues of saying NO. And then stand behind me when I say it. I so need this lesson at the moment.

Tania said...

You spit that dummy loud and proud, lovely! (and, um, hang in there).

Cybele's patch said...

Applause to Clare! You go girl. Sometimes a mother has to take control! Later the kids (and others) will be grateful for making them into respectful adults.(though you first have years of battling to come ^:^ )

Quilary said...

I'm 100% behind you holding up that 'no' flag too. I've learnt to live with the daggers in my back and the silent treatment, but I really believe it's made a difference to family knowing boundaries and others around knowing what I will and won't put up with, and what's a fair thing to ask. Good luck with your no saying.

Kerryanne English said...

A Yummy Mummy with attitude - go get 'em Clare!! Sometimes you just have to say NO.
Hugs ~ Kerryanne

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Lucky-1 said...

You go girl!!!!!

2 thumbs up.

Carol said...

You sometimes it is necessary to say
No but I love your crocheted blocks, really very pretty...

saday said...

No is a word that con hurt many people.But it also necessary to say no for yourself.Nice photos

New Baby Gifts said...

You are indeed a good person. You take care of your family and office at the same time. People find it tedious to tackle this dual. It is sometime necessary to be strict.

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